Core Themes We'll Explore

• How generational trauma from colonization, war, migration, or caste/class systems shows up in the body.

• Physical symptoms like chronic fatigue, tightness, or numbness that stem from suppressed emotions in honor/shame-based cultures.

• Somatic practices adapted or inspired by Asian modalities (e.g., qigong, yoga, tai chi) integrated with modern somatics (e.g., TRE, somatic experiencing, polyvagal theory).

• Shame, guilt, and filial piety stored in the nervous system.

• A roadmap for Asian diasporic individuals to reconnect with the body after years of intellectualizing or over-achieving as a trauma response.

You'll Learn How To ...

• Break cycles of people-pleasing and perfectionism

• Heal intergenerational wounds with compassion, not blame

• Reconnect with ancestral strength and emotional honesty

• Build self-trust, assertiveness, and deep self-worth

My Journey

This series emerged from a deeply personal place—a turning point where everything I thought I knew about who I was, and who I was allowed to be, was collapsing beneath me. In that raw, painful space, I confronted what I can only call emotional suicide: the slow death of my own spirit, sacrificed on the altar of pleasing others, starting with my parents.

For years, I lived a life dictated by the invisible yet ironclad rules of filial duty and cultural expectation. Every choice—from the clothes I wore, to the friends I kept, to the career I pursued—was filtered through the lens of my parent's approval. I was trained to be small, quiet, unassuming, and perfect. But perfection was a cage; people-pleasing, a slow poison that drained my vitality and buried my authentic self beneath layers of fear and self-doubt.

I had to face my deepest fears—fear of rejection, fear of loneliness, fear of shame—and step into a new kind of strength. This strength did not come from controlling others or hiding behind a mask of perfection, but from radical vulnerability, self-compassion, and the fierce commitment to honor my truth. It was in this place of raw honesty that I began to reclaim my voice, my power, and my life.

As I began to trust myself, the world opened up in ways I never imagined. The weight of external judgment lifted, and I found the freedom to explore who I truly was beneath the cultural scripts and family expectations. And it was then, in this newfound space of authenticity, that I met the love of my life—the relationship that would flourish not despite my scars, but because of them.

These eBooks are a reflection of that journey from invisibility to visibility, from silence to voice, from emotional death to vibrant life. It is written for anyone who feels trapped by inherited expectations, silenced by cultural norms, or fragmented by the tension between identity and belonging. It is for the East Asian Gen Xer raised by Silent Generation parents—those who have known the quiet desperation of being unseen, unheard, and undervalued.

This journey is not easy. It requires courage to confront the inherited wounds and cultural conditioning that have shaped us. But on the other side of that courage is a life of emotional freedom, deep connection, and profound joy—one that honors all parts of who we are.

I hope your journey is as fulfilling as mine is. I would love to hear about your journey!

--Avi DeSilva